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How do you know when to give up?

How do you know when you have put enough time and effort into something? 

How do you know when you have squeezed out your last ounce of energy and have no more to give to something?

How do you know when to give up?

It is so difficult to admit defeat or to admit that something you have been chasing or striving for is just not coming your way.  Especially if you are a driven and determined person who believes that you can achieve anything if you just put your mind to it.

But there are times when, no matter how much you want something, it may just not be right for you and the universe is sending you signs but you are blind to them or are choosing to ignore them in your quest to achieve your goal.

I wonder whether sometimes we can get so fixated on being, doing or having something that we run the risk of missing the signs that tell us, this isn’t the right thing for us.

On the other hand….having goals and aspirations is great, it’s a positive way to stay motivated.  They can provide us with meaning in our lives.  Arguably, they are essential to our existence.  We need to have something to work towards, to motivate and inspire us each day to get out of bed and engage with the world around us.

Having the will to stay focused and keep persevering even when things get tough, is surely the sign of a winner, someone who will succeed?  “Giving up” is not something winners do and any successful person (in business, sport, industry) will tell you that one of the fundamentals to their success is sticking with things when people around them said it couldn’t be done.

So, there is the conundrum!  “To quit or not to quit?” – that is the question.

How do you know what is worth the fight and what isn’t?  Well, sadly, there is no right answer, no magic formula that I can share with you which will give you the answer you are looking for.

What I can say, however, is that you could do far worse than to trust your instinct.  Stop analysing the situation and trying to work out what you think you should do, and tune in to what feels like the right thing to do.

It is not a case of “giving up”, it is a case of becoming more aware of what feels like the right thing to do in that moment.  You see, if we make all of our decisions based on logic, we can achieve a lot and we can feel comfortable in the knowing that there is a bunch of evidence pointing us in the “right” direction.

However, if we make our decisions with awareness of how we feel about what the logic is telling us, we are ultimately making a more authentic decision.  We will be able to take action which will be true to who we are and what is really important to us.

Have you ever made a decision because logic said it was the “right” thing to do, only to later regret it and wish you had stuck to what your instinct was telling you?

So….you know what I am talking about!

“To quit or not to quit?” – might not be the right question.  “To think or to feel?” – might be a better question.

2 Comments
  1. Susan were you sent by the universe to write this today? I cannot tell you how timely this was for me….. Thank you for the gift of this blog.
    To feel or not to feel. Love it!!!

    Laura x

    • The universe is an amazing thing! I am so pleased that my blog is timely for you and I hope it helps you answer your own question about giving up. And, thanks for taking the time to comment Laura.

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